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Minun arvoni

Olen kirjoittanut jo aiemmin voimaantumisestani, mutta haluan avata asiaa vielä lisää. Halu kertoa tarkemmin siitä, miten löysin oman arvoni ja mihin se ei enää perustu, syntyi samastumisen tunteesta nähdessäni tämän postauksen Humans of New Yorkin (HONY) facebook-sivulla:

”I’ve been overweight all my life. But I broke up with my boyfriend last year, and things weren’t going well, so it got worse and worse. I’d try to diet, but I’d eat something that I wasn’t supposed to. I’d try to go to the gym, but I’d leave early. I was trying to lose weight because I felt like I needed to be a different person. But time has passed now, and I think I’m approaching weight loss with a much more positive attitude. I know that I can be happy without losing weight. Sure, I wish I could wear prettier clothes. I wish I could take a photograph without my face looking like a football. But I know that I’m not my weight. And it’s hard to come to that conclusion. You really have to battle to separate your self-image from your weight. Because weight is always the first thing that somebody sees. Somebody will see you after a few years, and their first comment is about the weight you’ve put on. Maybe I’ve become a better person these last few years. Maybe I’ve been a great friend to someone. Maybe I’ve read a lot of books and become smarter. Maybe the reason I’ve put on weight is that I’ve got a great job that can be stressful and doesn’t leave me time to go to the gym.”

Erityisesti tämä kohta puhutteli minua: ”I know that I’m not my weight. And it’s hard to come to that conclusion. You really have to battle to separate your self-image from your weight.”

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Naisen muotti

Minua ihmetyttää suuresti, kuinka naisille edelleenkin on tietty muotti, johon pitäisi sopia. Mitä hoikempi, sitä kauniimpi. Mitä pienempi, sitä naisellisempi. Iso ei ole söpöä. Lihakset eivät ole söpöjä. Voima ei ole söpöä. Toisaalta kurvittomuuskaan ei ole söpöä. Ja miksi naisen ylipäätään tulee olla söpö ja nätti… Seksistä ja naisen muotista nyt puhumattakaan: joko olet madonna tai olet huora. Avoin seksuaalisuus nähdään usein “huorahtavana” (epäilemättä se on uhka usealle miehelle).

 

Alice knows her sexual life has nothing to do with her respect.

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